Wednesday, June 14, 2017

How To Love Your Body

I'm pleased to share my article in this month's issue of Masters Of Health Magazine, an online magazine dedicated to health and wellness.

Many of us yearn to have a different body, while ignoring the one we have. Social media is filled with photos of people on fad diets, starving themselves, or going to extreme measures, desperate to change their weight and appearance.

All too often, we hold ourselves up to an ideal of physical perfection and find fault with ourselves when we inevitably fail to meet their goals. This is true of men as well as women. 

As one of my male patients once said, “It is just as hard to be Ken as it is to be Barbie.”

To create a more peaceful and realistic way of relating to ourselves, we must challenge the notion that there is only one good way to have a body, so that we can cherish, as well as nurture, the bodies we have.

Love Tip #1: Appreciate Yourself

Many people, when they think of their “self” only think of their image in the mirror. Yet, we are so much more than our size and appearance.

One woman described herself as the “queen of self care” and didn’t understand why she still felt bad about herself. When I asked exactly how she took care of herself, she told me she regularly got manicures and pedicures, facials and massages.

I told her that was grooming, not self-care. Her challenge was realizing that there was much more to her – and to all of us - than meets the eye.

Always keep in mind that you have a body, but you also have a mind. There are intellectual parts, emotional, relational, creative, spiritual parts of yourself, and a whole range of other qualities that make you the person you are.

Make it a point to identify, embrace and nurture all parts of yourself, because they all need your appreciation. When you feel good about your whole self, you won’t be as focused on your weight as a way to define yourself.

Click HERE to read Love Tips #2 and #3:

To cherish the body you have, define yourself by your basic values and unique characteristics, instead of by your appearance. Tune in to your physical needs by avoiding restrictive diets and cultivating a more intuitive approach to your food choices. And, accept your emotions and attend to them, instead of ignoring them.

This is the key to true transformation and inner peace.

Monday, February 27, 2017

Balanced Body Through Balanced Eating

I'm pleased to welcome back Thomas Grainger as a guest blogger.  In honor of Eating Disorder Awareness Week, he shares his thoughts about balance.  

Take it away, Thomas!

by Thomas Grainger

2016 was the year that we witnessed a spike in talks around ‘clean eating’. From paleo to veganism, different people were associating themselves with different labels and different eating ideologies. With a focus on reclaiming back one’s health and doing what we felt was the best for our bodies, many people lost sight of what truly mattered. 


Eating healthily is very much a subjective idea. It is not just about what you eat but HOW you are doing it, your thoughts and mindset about what you put into your mouth and the people you are sharing your food with. 

Eating is suppose to be a pleasurable process, and one often associated with spending quality time to those who matter in our lives. I think 2017 has already seen a refocusing on what it means to eat healthily - to find that balance between controlling what we eat and enjoying food for it’s intrinsically pleasurable and social value. With food becoming increasingly associated with our identities, especially due to the rise of social media platforms like Instagram and Snapchat, where people share their green smoothies or Acai Bowls in perfectly constructed stylised photo posts, 

It is important that we don’t let food define who we are. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying a cupcake, or having a bowl of vegetables, if that’s what you feel like. Stewing over what we consume for hours, feelings of guilt or even the judgment of others who don’t eat the same way we do, is never a healthy attitude, no matter how many chia seeds you manage to sprinkle over your organic kale chips. 

There’s a time and a place for everything, as the cliche goes, and I do believe that eating is very much an evolutionary and indeed a learning process. 

Listen to your body. 
Enjoy what you eat. 
Aim to eat from the ‘rainbow’ of food choices out there and most importantly, don’t overthink things. 

Eating is not meant to be a trap. It’s not meant to be associated with weight gain or weight loss. 

It’s the fuel source that nourishes our bodies, and we should all enjoy this nourishing process. 

Let’s make 2017 the year of rebalancing perspectives on eating. Remember, you can ‘have your cake and eat it too’.   

Thomas Grainger is a television producer from Sydney, Australia. After battling a life-threatening eating disorder which left him with a number of serious health issues, he has embarked on a journey as a health and wellness activist, spreading a message of self-acceptance and love for one's body, no matter what shape or size. He is the author of the book, 'You Are Not Your Eating Disorder', a practical guide to understanding and recovering from an eating disorder for life.